Back in the “old days”, it was up to the guy to ask for a second date. But times have changed, and now it’s acceptable for either party to make the second date. So it’s not really a gender issue but rather a matter of who asked on the first date and who should take the lead to set up the second rendezvous. It really shouldn’t be a one sided approach – he can’t be asking you out on every date, making the arrangements and so on.

Most importantly though, if you are both highly compatible and had a wonderful time on the first date, does it really matter who should make the second date? You may be the old-fashioned type and expect him to call you up for the second date. But if he made the effort to schedule the first date, he may be wondering whether he should be taking the initiative to set up the second date. Or is it like him dragging you along while you aren’t all that interested? Guys are not very apt at figuring out this stuff.

After the first date, its easier for a girl to do it, by saying “We had such a great time going bowling the other night, that I’d like to see if I can beat you at golf now?” for instance. Hopefully he didn’t take you bowling on the first date! Tying it in to the first date, whether you are a guy or a girl is what makes it easy to ask for that second date. Bringing up what you did and mutually enjoyed on the first date lays the foundation for negotiating the next encounter.

Some people are hard to read. If you are unsure whether or not the other person had as great a time as you did, then definitely jump in with both feet to ask for a second date whether you are a guy or a girl. You would never know otherwise and you have nothing to lose. Chances are that both of you had a great time, and either party is more than ready for a second date.

Guys, if she’s the kind of girl who likes her man to take charge, there’s no better time to show her that you can do so, than asking for that second date. Nobody likes an indecisive man. You’d already have been out with her, and you should have been able to gauge her interests. Women are easier to read as they are not trying to act “macho”.  If you are setting up the second date, try to use the information you gathered on the first date to make a decision about the venue and activity. For instance if she spoke about going to college and taking up art as a major, be bold and ask her to go to an art show, or to an art museum even if its not your cup of tea. You may be surprised as to how much you could learn and what a wonderful date it may turn out to be.