This one’s for my shy brothers and sisters who think their natural tendency to be bashfully inclined is making them lose out in the dating scene. Use these tips to overcome shyness.

Beat Dating Shyness Tips

1. If you’re too shy to approach someone and feel yourself clamming up at the thought of a date, may be all you need is a little practice. Ask someone out on a date; someone who isn’t a potential partner and is willing to help. Practice everything – from asking someone out, greeting your date, date conversation, goodbyes etc. You will get better with practice and also learn what you might be doing wrong.
2. If you like the idea of practice but are too shy to practice with someone else, this is your next best option. Instead of trying to change everything in one go, take it slow. The next time you go out some place, follow these steps. Its best to be completely comfortable with one step before you move on to the next. A step can take you a couple of hours or two nights out to get comfortable with. It doesn’t matter as long as you keep trying.

   Step 1 – Make and maintain contact with a few people of the opposite sex.
   Step 2 – Smile at a few people. Friendly smile not creepy
   Step 3 – Say “Hi” or “Hello”
   Step 4 – Approach and attempt conversation

3. Shyness coupled with fear of rejection is the ultimate combo to stop you from approaching anyone – online or offline. So first of all, you need to realize that it’s not just about getting them to say yes. Confidence comes from approaching different people and knowing what works and what doesn’t. Don’t let rejection be your excuse. Use it as a confidence-building, shyness-eliminating tool instead.
4. The most worrying factor for shy guys and girls is conversation. Most can’t make good conversation while they’re still recovering from the take over of the shy genes. A good idea would be to take an interest in the other person and ask them questions that would persuade them to talk about themselves. Everyone loves talking about themselves and if you’re the one willing to listen, you’ve got yourself an advantage.
5. Not to sound contradictory or anything but you need to understand that not everyone was born an extrovert. It’s okay to be shy. Embracing your shyness will make you more confident (no seriously!). A lot of guys and girls fall in love with the bashfulness and humility of a shy person, so you don’t need to be apologetic about your personality.

Shyness isn’t really a disease and without getting all Dr. Phil on you, you have to realize that it’s really all up to you. Keep working on yourself and doing things to make you a little more outgoing. Overcoming your shyness is possible if you really try.