Tired of dating the same people over and over again? You know what I mean. They’re different people, but it’s like they’re all one person because they all have the same characteristics, temperaments, personalities etc. And after they’re gone, we always say the same thing, “Why can’t I find someone who’s more my type?” or “Will I ever find love?” etc. Truth is we get sucked into bad dating habits and end up doing all the ‘wrong’ things to find the ‘right’ person.
How to know if you’re destroying your own dating life? Well, you probably believe one (or all) of these.

• You think love/ relationships are difficult, painful and need a lot of work.
• You think falling in love will fix all your love problems.
• You think you’re running out of time.
• You don’t believe you deserve love.
• You keep dating people who aren’t emotionally available.

Sounds familiar? I have to confess I’ve been guilty of a couple myself! Here are some really dope tips to help you make that change and attract the person who’s “your type”

Look Inwards
The first step to recovery is to identify the problem. What do you think you’re doing wrong? Are you hating on yourself too much? Or maybe you work too much and don’t give your relationship any time. Whatever it is, identify it and dump it!

A Positive Attitude
Remember when Mariah and Whitney sang “you can do miracles, when you believe”? I’m not being dramatic but let’s start believing. Believing in what? Believing in love; believing you can find love and believing you’re worth being loved. Positivity is very attractive from what I hear!

Love Yourself
You gotta love yourself. Yeah you heard me. Love yourself because if you’re on a hate trip with yourself, don’t expect someone else to hop on for the ride. Dig?

Lower Your Expectations
Okay so we’re all looking for the “perfect” someone but the word ‘perfect’ actually translates to: ‘someone who’s perfect for you’. It doesn’t actually mean they’re going to be perfect people with no flaws. So turn the expectations down a notch and remember you ain’t always all that either!

Stop Putting Life on Hold
It’ll be great to finally meet Prince Charming or Miss Perfect. But, that doesn’t mean you’ve got to put your own life on hold till you find them. Like I said before, love yourself and live your life. Don’t tell yourself, “When I fall in love, I’m going to give myself a makeover” or “I need to fall in love before I make that big career change”.  This’ll make you happy and so you’ll get with people who’re happy too!

So let’s use this advice, knuckle up and find our “perfect” partners? What say peeps?