Breaking up after the first date may be easy for some while others may feel awkward or guilty about ending things at such an early stage. Approaching the break up after the first date from a polite and pleasant angle often reaps better results than being rude, nasty or just ignoring the person’s calls and emails. The first date is never a guarantee of a relationship but if you have gone on a first date with a person who has got the ‘wrong idea’, you may have to get tough and a little nasty in order to end things permanently.

Blind Date

Blind dates can be awkward as you can never be sure of who you are meeting with and how you will relate to them. If you have not had any previous contact with your blind date, then you are in an even more difficult situation as you have no idea of what or who you will face on that first date. While friends and family who set up the blind date may have good intentions and glorify the other person, at the end of the day you are meeting a real person with real flaws that may not be tolerable to you.

Fortunately breaking up after the first date in the event of a blind date scenario is usually easier, although it may be just as awkward. On one hand you do not want to upset the person who set up the blind date. On the other you know that there is zero expectations because it was a blind date and no reasonable person would have preconceived expectations of a relationship although your date may have taken an interest in you after the first date.

Telling your date that you don’t think that you are compatible and would not be interested dating is the best way to approach it. You are being straightforward without being rude and the other person should not take offense by it or slander you afterwards. Of course if you get nasty unnecessarily, you may find that your date will portray you in a poor light afterwards. Explaining to the friend who set up the blind date should also not cause any tension within your friendship. Simply indicate that the person they set you up with is not the type of person you would be interested in for a romantic relationship but thank them for attempting to assist you with a match.

First Date After Communicating

Sometimes the first date comes after weeks or even months of phone calls, text messages and emails. You may have got to know the person a little without meeting face to face but this does not mean that you will find them interesting after the first date. If you do not want to pursue a relationship or continue with a second date, then you will find this type of situation a bit more difficult to deal with.

If both you and your date are not attracted to each other then it may be easy to end it at that point and walk away. But all too often one person is interested while the other is not. If you are not, then you will have to be direct. Remember that you have been communicating with this person for a while and there is no point beating around the bush. If you do so, the person may misunderstand your attitude for caution or uncertainty rather than rejection.

Be direct. Tell him or her that it was an interesting few weeks of calls and emails but you do not see any reason to pursue it further. If you find the person remotely interesting, tell them directly that you don’t mind being friends, although not  close pals, but that is as far as it will go. Avoiding their emails or calls will not help in the long run. While some people may get the hint, being ignored can just motivate others to pursue harder. In some situations this can border on stalking and just make your life miserable. Tell the person directly and inform any mutual friends about how you feel. Even if the person does not get the hint or take your break up seriously, you will have the support of mutual friends to tell him or her to back off.