What does the other person want?  This question can never really been answered before or during the first date. But assumptions about what the other sex is looking for often leads to dishonesty, especially on the first date. You may choose to spin a few fibs in order to make yourself look good and impress her. You may pretend to enjoy certain things and be the type of girl that he is looking for in his life. Whatever the reason, it is important to realize that starting any relationship on lies will only complicate the future. And who knows. This may be the first date but it could be the start of a lifelong relationship.

Times change and people grow but there is but one constant in relationships, and that is trust. Where there is trust, there may eventually come love, but it all starts with honesty on the first date. It’s pretty much cut and dry, whatever you do, do not lie on the first date.

Being open with the other person is important, especially if they have told you something rather personal. And being open means being honest, and not making up stuff to either look good or be somebody that you are not. There is nothing worse than knowing that you have poured your heart out to a person only to have them lie to you when you thought they were reciprocating. Dishonesty is a form of betrayal and it will come back to bite you later on even if you think that it is a harmless white lie.

Honesty does not mean that you have to reveal your deepest darkest secret to the other person. This is never a good idea, especially not on the first date. After all, it is only human to be a bit judgemental and when a person does not know you too well, they may make assumptions based on your revelations. However, honesty can be as subtle as revealing the type of meal that you enjoy even if the other person does not. Or just having a different opinion on a specific issue. There is no harm in being different – compatibility does not mean that both of you will always like the same things, or feel the same way about topical issues.

Most importantly though, lying means that you will get caught out eventually and if this is sooner, rather than later, it may harm the prospects of a serious relationship in the future. Imagine saying something only for the person to find out that you lied by talking to a common acquaintance.  It does not bode well for future dates or exploring the possibility of a relationship any further.

But honesty also has its limits. There is a difference between honesty and criticism and this is what some people don’t understand. Learn a little diplomacy.  Telling a date that the outfit they chose to wear is awful, is not honesty, it’s an insult. Learn to give out compliments that are real, that are honest. If you really don’t have anything nice to say, rather say nothing, especially on the first date. What you may think is honesty and being open about yourself can come across the wrong way and hurt a person, especially for somebody who does not know you well but is interested in getting to know you better.